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  PARENTING TIPS  
  Keys to Successful Parenting  
 

It is essential for parents to monitor the behavior of the child, understand his unique needs and come up with solutions to the problems he faces.It is important that we discipline in a way that teaches responsibility by motivating our children internally. Bringing up a child is a challenging job, one that has tremendous responsibilities. It is a complex task and a lot of patience and understanding is required to give a good upbringing to the child.

 
     
  Use Genuine Encounter Moments  
 
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Child's self-esteem is greatly influenced by the quality of time you spend with him-not the amount of time that you spend. With our busy lives, we are often thinking about the next thing that we have to do, instead of putting 100% focused attention on what our child is saying to us. We often pretend to listen or ignore our child's attempts to communicate with us. If we don't give our child Genuine Encounter Moments throughout the day, he will often start to misbehave. Negative attention in a child's mind is better than being ignored.  It is best at these times just to validate her feelings by saying, "Yeah, I bet it does feel like a long time since we spent time together."

 
     
  Use Action, Not Words  
 

Statistics say that we give our children over 2000 compliance requests a day! No wonder our children become "parent deaf!" Instead of nagging or yelling, ask yourself, "What action could I take?" For example, if you have nagged your child about unrolling his socks when he takes them off, then only wash socks that are unrolled. Action speaks louder than words.

 
     
  Give Children Appropriate Ways to Feel Powerful  
 

If you don't, they will find inappropriate ways to feel their power. Ways to help them feel powerful and valuable are to ask their advice, give them choices, let them help you balance your check book, cook all our part of a meal, or help you shop. A two-year-old can wash plastic dishes, wash vegetables, or put silverware away. Often we do the job for them because we can do it with less hassle, but the result is they feel unimportant.

 
     
  Use Natural Consequences  
 

Ask yourself what would happen if I didn't interfere in this situation? If we interfere when we don't need to, we rob children of the chance to learn from the consequences of their actions. By allowing consequences to do the talking, we avoid disturbing our relationships by nagging or reminding too much. For example, if your child forgets her lunch, you don't bring it to her. Allow her to find a solution and learn the importance of remembering.

 
     
  Use Logical Consequences  
 

Often the consequences are too far in the future to practically use a natural consequence. When that is the case, logical consequences are effective.  For example, if your child forgets to return his video and you ground him for a week, that punishment will only create resentment within your child. However, if you return the video for him and either deduct the amount from his allowance or allow him to work off the money owed, then your child can see the logic to your discipline.

 
     
     
     
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